The belief that you are “not good enough” stems from a lifetime of conditioning. Society teaches us to seek validation through achievements, comparisons, or external approval. This creates a cycle where the mind judges the body, reinforcing the false idea that you must “improve” to be whole.
Traditional meditation often deepens this disconnect. Techniques like ‘breath focus’ keep you engaged in mental effort—thinking about sensations as if they are separate from what you actually feel. This creates the illusion that you are a “thinker” analysing any activity done by your “body,” rather than recognising you are one.
How Thinking Distorts Your Natural State
Feelings of inadequacy are not inherent. They arise when thoughts take over the body’s direct experience. For example, thinking about a feeling as “failure” or “not enough” shifts attention away from the raw feeling of pain or something deeper which might be the root cause of distress. These labels are learned, not innate.
Our identity, influenced by culture or past criticism, creates a certain judgement about your worth. These stories are not truths. They are made up judgements driven by a lack of knowledge on how to react. They distract you from the body’s natural response—to actually feel the pain. The feelings exist for a reason: to guide you through your life.
The Body’s Natural Response to Feeling “Not Enough”
Your body communicates through sensations: warmth, pressure, stillness, or discomfort. These sensations are not flaws. They are the body’s way of processing suppressed stress or unresolved tension.
Natural Meditation begins when you stop interpreting these sensations. Sit quietly and notice the distress as it is. It is a need within your body that requires your attention.
There is no need to “fix” or “change” anything. The body already knows how to heal.
Ending the Cycle of Mental Judgment
Attempts to “improve” self-worth through positive thinking or techniques only reinforce the disconnect between the body and mind. Imagine trying to calm a storm by shouting at the wind. The storm settles not through force, but when the air naturally stills.
Similarly, the feeling of ‘not being good enough’ will dissolve when you stop fighting it. If you are anxious with self-doubt, let the body guide you through this feeling without thinking about it. You are your own unique existence and over time, the pain will heal—not because you changed it, but because you stopped thinking about it.
Reconnecting with Your Body’s Truth
Society’s labels—“success,” “failure,” “enough”—are mental constructs. They have no basis in the body’s reality. A tree does not question its height; it grows according to its natural design.
To reconnect:
- Pause thinking: When self-doubt surfaces, let your body guide you through the pain or unresolved sensations beneath it.
- Let the sensation be: Do not overthink, analyse, or judge. Once you get beneath that feeling, feel the distress without thinking or reacting.
- Listen to your body: Healing happens naturally as you reconnect with the pain in your body. You feel relief knowing you are your own existence. All the exaggerating thoughts were only there to confuse you.
Final Insight
The belief that you are “not enough” is not a flaw. It is a learned distortion—a ripple on the surface of a pond. Beneath the ripple, the pond’s depth remains undisturbed.
Natural Meditation is not about fixing yourself. It is about stopping the mental interference that disturbs your healing process. You are who you are. External validation can not change what It is to be you.
